Anyway that night, The Ex wanted to skype my son but internet was down.. and he BB me to ask when he can talk.. i refuse to answer ( if he can be childish, so can I) until really late . i told him i would be ready to communicate if he can behave like a mature adult. He started saying that i should "APPRECIATE" that fact that he allowed my son to go to the DOCTOR within his time with the son!!! can you bloody believe that statement!!?? What kind of father is this?? how can someone be that selfish that he puts his own desires before his son's health and well being?? What kind of monster is this really??!! i swear if i put this out for the public to vote..anyone with a sane mind would be totally shocked! that got me really angry and i said to him what kind of father are you etc and how i would go to the courts on this. He laughed and said lets go..and see who will win! i answered.. "yes.. i m sure the courts would think very highly of someone with a yearly contract job as ' Stable' ! of course i knew that would trigger him off.. which was exactly what happened..below is an excerpt of what transpired btw 2 of us, content is completely true and original
Me: I wld bring him to the courts to prove that he is incompetent as a father .
The Ex: said oh sure go ahead.. like you will win! Hahaha!
Me: dun forget I have a family of lawyers and please you think you will win based on your unstable one year contract of work.
The Ex: See what? Another threat? You are becoming very good at accusing and threatening.. I am impressed
Me: I state facts..
Me: Not irrational behaviour which u r brought up w
Me: I state facts..
Me: Not irrational behaviour which u r brought up w
Me: I can so easily prove that the doc ask for my son to come down on sat..and of course u refused..
The Ex: Excuse me? What are you accusing me of now? Not having a solid economy/future? I think I carried you along for a few years just fine princess.. Any complaints?
The Ex: You are sick.. Absolutely gone mad in your mind
Me: Hahhha..u mean my years of suffering?? Pls!! U still can't even afford to pay me alimony!!
Me: Dun forget ..u told me to work part time??
Me: After leaving our son and I ... ? Memory problems??
The Ex: I pay a very good maintenance for my son, do you have a problem with that? Cos I can stop sending that
Me U r responsible my ass
Me: Hahhaha!!! Sure..your paltry sum is definitely enough!!
The Ex: Excuse me? What are you accusing me of now? Not having a solid economy/future? I think I carried you along for a few years just fine princess.. Any complaints?
The Ex: You are sick.. Absolutely gone mad in your mind
Me: Hahhha..u mean my years of suffering?? Pls!! U still can't even afford to pay me alimony!!
Me: Dun forget ..u told me to work part time??
Me: After leaving our son and I ... ? Memory problems??
The Ex: I pay a very good maintenance for my son, do you have a problem with that? Cos I can stop sending that
Me U r responsible my ass
Me: Hahhaha!!! Sure..your paltry sum is definitely enough!!
The Ex: No worries, if you make so much that my money is just a paltry sum then I will stop sending
The Exl: Just let me know ms nouveau riche
The Exl: Just let me know ms nouveau riche
The Ex: Or perhaps you already found another man who you can suck all the blood and spend away all the money irrationally???
Me: Dun forget.. Who is the one that can't even face my parents??
The Ex: Face your parents??? Your family of losers who will hide from my family and I when we come to SG??
Me: Ivan u watch your fucking mouth! Wat has your family DONE for my son?? Pray tell!!!!! Who is the loser here
Me: U think by sending $ and traveling here playing play dad role..is call a GOOD father???
Me: Shit.the rest of the world's fathers wld be so insulted!!!! Hahahahah!!!!
Me: Well at least I didn't cheat behind my marriage...
Me: And pls dun even try to deny this... Everyone knows...
Me: That's not the point..I dun really care..
The Ex: You will not make me feel guilty, I might not be the best father but I am much better than many others..and what kind of mother are you who lost your son's father?
The Ex: Face your parents??? Your family of losers who will hide from my family and I when we come to SG??
Me: Ivan u watch your fucking mouth! Wat has your family DONE for my son?? Pray tell!!!!! Who is the loser here
Me: U think by sending $ and traveling here playing play dad role..is call a GOOD father???
Me: Shit.the rest of the world's fathers wld be so insulted!!!! Hahahahah!!!!
Me: Well at least I didn't cheat behind my marriage...
Me: And pls dun even try to deny this... Everyone knows...
Me: That's not the point..I dun really care..
The Ex: You will not make me feel guilty, I might not be the best father but I am much better than many others..and what kind of mother are you who lost your son's father?
Me: Ohhh!! Did I lose u as a father??? Well a cheating father is not one to keep right?? Ask your mum..
The Ex: Oh yes of course.. More accusations now.. Go on and on
The Ex:Although this one is a new one.. I am impressed!
The Ex: Oh yes of course.. More accusations now.. Go on and on
The Ex:Although this one is a new one.. I am impressed!
Me: Good!
Me: Dun lay your guilt on me ivan...
The Ex:Now I am a cheater! Since when?
Me: Now..if u want to continue to threaten to stop sending $ ..can u pls email me something in writing..
Me: Oh goodness do we have to go thru this ?? U r wat u r ..ivan.. So just pls dun try to insult yourself here...
Me: Just plain silly.. And I m getting bored
The Ex: I don't need to threat anyone, you stop looking down on me and accusing me and threaten me!
Me: Better start appreciating the fact I m even lending u MY computer..using MY parents internet... To let him skype u...
The Ex:Now I am a cheater! Since when?
Me: Now..if u want to continue to threaten to stop sending $ ..can u pls email me something in writing..
Me: Oh goodness do we have to go thru this ?? U r wat u r ..ivan.. So just pls dun try to insult yourself here...
Me: Just plain silly.. And I m getting bored
The Ex: I don't need to threat anyone, you stop looking down on me and accusing me and threaten me!
Me: Better start appreciating the fact I m even lending u MY computer..using MY parents internet... To let him skype u...
The Ex: I never denied I am
Me: So be nice oki? However I need to let u know.. My parents won't be too happy abt the fact they r called losers...
Me: So be nice oki? However I need to let u know.. My parents won't be too happy abt the fact they r called losers...
The Ex: Anyway, are you gonna stick to the deal and allow me to talk to kyven on skype or not?
Me: Wat deal??? Anything I dunno abt??
Me: Wat deal??? Anything I dunno abt??
Me: Shit..I must have missed something..
The Ex: It's a verbal deal, we always had it
The Ex: It's a verbal deal, we always had it
The Ex: And the fact that you accuse me of not facing them?? Pls!
Me: Well..u didn't did u?? Sorry did I miss that too??
Me: Did u faced them?? Oops..when?
Me: Ivan.. Be respectful..and learn to be nice
Me: Did u faced them?? Oops..when?
Me: Ivan.. Be respectful..and learn to be nice
Me: That will get u further in wat u want...
The Ex:They always travelled away when I came and you told me they were not ready
The Ex:I was so disappointed in them.. I never thought they would just leave me out like that
Me: Well..wow.. One trip they were away!! Didn't know emails not working..
The Ex:Don't do this, you always kept me away from them
Me: OMG!!!! That's a real first!!!! Who left who first??? Sorry??
The Ex: I am a respectful person and I would have done it if given the chance
The Ex:They always travelled away when I came and you told me they were not ready
The Ex:I was so disappointed in them.. I never thought they would just leave me out like that
Me: Well..wow.. One trip they were away!! Didn't know emails not working..
The Ex:Don't do this, you always kept me away from them
Me: OMG!!!! That's a real first!!!! Who left who first??? Sorry??
The Ex: I am a respectful person and I would have done it if given the chance
( additional comments by me: i wonder what he means by giving him a chance when for the past 9 mths he has been making regular trips to SG and i guess he hasnt heard of the phone or emails as a communicative tool! Oh not forgetting the countless of times my son skype him infront of my parents.. hmmm guess he missed all those chances too huh??)
Me: Mate..u didn't even reply properly to their email..come on.stop this..so embarrasing for u...
The Ex: I even agreed to the house next to them for everyone's convenience.. Only to learn that I am not welcome when I am around
Me: Mate..u didn't even reply properly to their email..come on.stop this..so embarrasing for u...
The Ex: I even agreed to the house next to them for everyone's convenience.. Only to learn that I am not welcome when I am around
( additional comments by me: Again this is where his memory fails him.. my parents take care of my son so living next to them was my criteria .. also i wonder what kind of welcome he is expecting for a husband and father that dumps his family at her parents doorstep? a cheating husband & father that gives his family up? he still so thick skinned to expect people to "welcome" him..!! Ego!! )
Me: Well u still have your chance now..come meet them!
The Ex: I did reply by acknowledging.. At that time it was not the right moment for them to get involved
Me: Pls learn to take some at least SOME responsibility...
Me: Yes..guess 9 mths was not the right time.. Sure..
The Ex :Even when my mom brought the gifts for them.. She spent 3 days in SG and your parents never showed up
Me: Look..save it! U know wat u have done..
The Ex :I am sorry
Me: Hahhaha!! Buying gifts??? Will quell my dad's anger at u???
Me: Pls.stop this blaming game..I m so not interested to continue
The Ex : Really? You think so? You are wrong you should know my mom better
The Ex : But of course you spent our whole marriage bitching about her so you wouldn't know
Me: I m not interested in wat your mum thinks...or knows..
Me: Yes..again.someone else's fault..
The Ex :They got along well.. But you stopped them from meeting her and this has caused pain
Me: Well u still have your chance now..come meet them!
The Ex: I did reply by acknowledging.. At that time it was not the right moment for them to get involved
Me: Pls learn to take some at least SOME responsibility...
Me: Yes..guess 9 mths was not the right time.. Sure..
The Ex :Even when my mom brought the gifts for them.. She spent 3 days in SG and your parents never showed up
Me: Look..save it! U know wat u have done..
The Ex :I am sorry
Me: Hahhaha!! Buying gifts??? Will quell my dad's anger at u???
Me: Pls.stop this blaming game..I m so not interested to continue
The Ex : Really? You think so? You are wrong you should know my mom better
The Ex : But of course you spent our whole marriage bitching about her so you wouldn't know
Me: I m not interested in wat your mum thinks...or knows..
Me: Yes..again.someone else's fault..
The Ex :They got along well.. But you stopped them from meeting her and this has caused pain
( this is just plain stoopid...he left his family and er.. who is causing who pain??)
Me: Ok..so..if u r interested to be nice n respectful again ..do let me know.
Me: I want to communicate in a proper way...
Me: Ok..so..if u r interested to be nice n respectful again ..do let me know.
Me: I want to communicate in a proper way...
The Ex : I have always done it so far.. You just start accusing at the minimum chance and its not healthy
The Ex :But anyway, if they are ready to face me I will have no problems to meet them and thank them for looking after my boy
Me: U shld face them not the other way round...wait didn't I just say stop this ridiculous discussion??
The Ex :Ok up to you.. Just remember who told me to stay away cos your father was not ready
Me: ivan.. Again..if u cannot understand..I seriously just dun want to waste my time..
Me: U left me and our son in SG at my parents place..left me n my parents to pick up the pieces...so if u had a daughter..I m sure u wld be happy at how they were treated...
The Ex : Yes of course I am stupid now.. I cannot understand.. I am a useless professional who doesn't earn enough money.. And a cheater.. And not respectful..
Me: Anyway..aside fr this,
Me: its over n done...so let's not go there
The Ex :I am just shocked of how much you have turned things around and trying to blame everything on me and justify our break out by calling me a loser?!
Me: I want u to understand..next time if ever a doctor request for kyven to go and see him.. Pls do so.
The Ex :But anyway, if they are ready to face me I will have no problems to meet them and thank them for looking after my boy
Me: U shld face them not the other way round...wait didn't I just say stop this ridiculous discussion??
The Ex :Ok up to you.. Just remember who told me to stay away cos your father was not ready
Me: ivan.. Again..if u cannot understand..I seriously just dun want to waste my time..
Me: U left me and our son in SG at my parents place..left me n my parents to pick up the pieces...so if u had a daughter..I m sure u wld be happy at how they were treated...
The Ex : Yes of course I am stupid now.. I cannot understand.. I am a useless professional who doesn't earn enough money.. And a cheater.. And not respectful..
Me: Anyway..aside fr this,
Me: its over n done...so let's not go there
The Ex :I am just shocked of how much you have turned things around and trying to blame everything on me and justify our break out by calling me a loser?!
Me: I want u to understand..next time if ever a doctor request for kyven to go and see him.. Pls do so.
Me: I didn't actually want to rush down all the way to bring kyven to doc..I actually ask till monday..
The Ex : Don't start giving me a lesson here.. I never disagreed
The Ex : I never thought you would ever do this and I don't understand it
The Ex : I just didn't wanna be told off like you always do.. Its very stressful and tiring
Me: U hung up on me and refuse to talk to me?? Er..is that not a disagreement?? Am I missing something here??
Me: If u had listen to me carefully...that's its doc instruction not mine..?!!
The Ex I said if you wanna take him go ahead but I will not go with you
The Ex : I even tried to convince our son so you wouldn't have to come up.. Ask the nanny
The Ex Well its the way you talk.. As I said its impossible to speak w you.. And that's why we always do on skype and bbm
The Ex:Better stick to that next time
Me: Ivan..all I m asking u..is if he is in bali..pls after 3 days of fever..no matter how well or flu like he is..he must see a doctor.
Me: If u dun want antibiotics just tell doc..cos I always do
The Ex :Anyway, very unpleasant to bbm with you as I never felt before.. Can we just let it go now.. I am tired
Me: Its a standard procedure.. After 3 days..he goes in.. They usually give stronger medicine..than the milder ones I buy @ pharmacy.
The Ex : Ok
Me: Thank u..
Me: Pls dun ever shake my confidence in u again..it was seriously scary.thank u
Me: Good nite!
The Ex: Bye
The Ex : I never thought you would ever do this and I don't understand it
The Ex : I just didn't wanna be told off like you always do.. Its very stressful and tiring
Me: U hung up on me and refuse to talk to me?? Er..is that not a disagreement?? Am I missing something here??
Me: If u had listen to me carefully...that's its doc instruction not mine..?!!
The Ex I said if you wanna take him go ahead but I will not go with you
The Ex : I even tried to convince our son so you wouldn't have to come up.. Ask the nanny
The Ex Well its the way you talk.. As I said its impossible to speak w you.. And that's why we always do on skype and bbm
The Ex:Better stick to that next time
Me: Ivan..all I m asking u..is if he is in bali..pls after 3 days of fever..no matter how well or flu like he is..he must see a doctor.
Me: If u dun want antibiotics just tell doc..cos I always do
The Ex :Anyway, very unpleasant to bbm with you as I never felt before.. Can we just let it go now.. I am tired
Me: Its a standard procedure.. After 3 days..he goes in.. They usually give stronger medicine..than the milder ones I buy @ pharmacy.
The Ex : Ok
Me: Thank u..
Me: Pls dun ever shake my confidence in u again..it was seriously scary.thank u
Me: Good nite!
The Ex: Bye
After this entire discussion.. i felt really good.. at first i started off very angry and even holding and typing my BB , my fingers were trembling so much.. however after a while i started to really be amuse at how ridiculous he really was! i started really enjoying the exchange! seriously i was smiling towards the end!
this must be therapy cos i felt so liberated after that!! it was like something heavy lifted off me!! i finally wore him down yet i stuck to my points till he agreed!
i cant really understand why he seems so shocked at my reaction to him.. saying i have turned etc.. but this got me thinking of how damn naive he is.. thinking that i will be friends with him and actually even feel grateful to him??!!! i HATE him to the core.. the deepest core.. he is the blemish on my life that i cant bloody erase!! i somehow thought that he would know , seeing that i have always told him i am never friends with my exes..they are exes for a reason! and even more so for him!!! i cant wait to tell him and burst his super huge ego that He is the Biggest Loser of all my relationships and i soooo REGRET even marrying him..YUCKS!! the only redeeming factor was he donated his sperm to create my dear son!
My maid told me.. that i look so much better now than when i was with him.. she said everytime i argued with The Ex.. i would get really emotional and angry but this time... i was smiling and even elated to tell her about it! for once i squashed him and triumphed over him! LIBERATING!!!
