Incidents that make my heart ache

First incident:

Location: Bali

My son went to Bali with a slight running nose. The following day in Bali, he developed fever . I would not have mind if the ex has knowledge of how to handle my son's medicine. However he has no clue.I only found out my son was sick with fever after 2 days when i asked the ex. when i asked what his temperature was, it was vaguely communicated to be as 37 degrees and that he was already fine

As i was away in Singapore , i had informed my nanny in SG to call the nanny in Bali for an update and make sure for my son to take the correct medicine, but Ivan refused to transfer the call over and refused them communication. Stating he knows best what to do.

Due to the fact that my son was not given the correct medication , he was weak upon returning back to SG and was hit by another virus causing him to have high fever of 39 degrees for a week! it resulted in me bringing him for a blood test to confirm he had 2 viruses in him.

Resolution: After this i have communicated clearly that the ex has to inform me whenever my son is sick and to be brief on what medicine to take. On top of that i have also suggested for my Singapore nanny to follow my son back to Bali for just 1 trip to brief the nanny in Bali on his eating habits, medicines to take etc ( to avoid lost in translation situations) . Payment of flight for my Singapore nanny was to be billed to me

Difficulty: The ex refused communication between both nannies communicating directly for my son's health . The ex refused to allow Singapore nanny to travel to Bali to take care of my son . The ex did not communicate to either me or my Singapore nanny about my son's illness in Bali

2nd Incident: 31st Oct 2011

Location : Singapore

my son had fever started 27th Oct ( Thurs)and started exhibiting flu symptoms . However despite given over the counter panadol for children and medicine for cough and running nose, his temperature remained as low grade fever . On Saturday, I called my son's regular doctor in Raffles Hospital and asked if he needs to be seen on Saturday or that he can wait till Monday. As most clinics close half day Saturdays and full days on Sundays, his doctor requested me to bring him in. I immediately informed the ex ( who was in since Thurs morning fully aware that my son is sick) that my son needs to go to the doctor.

Difficulty: The ex disagreed with bringing my son to the doctor stating that it is only a low grade fever and has flu, even though he was fully aware that it was per doctor's instruction. Stated he did not want doctor to give antibiotics ( which could have been easily instructed by parent to doctor) . Hung up on me during mid discussion on why my son needs to go see a doctor . Stated that if i insist, i had to come over and get my son myself . ( i was staying outside of our apartment) . Refused to answer my calls after that.